Anonymous said: I met a guy I thought was cute and after a few times hanging out we had sex and before that I was a virgin. But now I've found out some really awful things that I didn't know about him and I don't know what to do. I feel hurt and confused and I have him my virginity and I'll never get that back. What do I do
First of all, virginity is a bullshit concept. You didn’t give him anything. All you did was gain experience so the next time you’ll know what to expect.
Virginity is there basically to give people more power over you. If you’re a virgin, you’re a prude if not, you’re a slut. The important thing to remember is that you’re not less of a person for not being a virgin anymore.
Yes, finding out this guy did some awful things hurts and it’ll take a while to get over that, but the fact that you had sex with him does not put a black mark on you.
Virginity is an invisible concept, not a tangible object. Virginity is all in our heads.
My advice is to take your time getting over him and don’t worry about the virginity thing. If someone thinks you’re less of a person for not being a virgin, they’re not worthy of your time. Just so long as the sex was safe and consensual, there’s nothing to worry about.